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The Gift vs Personal Best Level One

I have just finished the last Personal Best Level One, I am both excited and nostalgic, for over 22 years we have delivered an amazing program and have supported 10 of thousands of people to take their next step.  The LAST course was a ton of fun, great people and a wonderful way to end a chapter in my life and business.

These days the question that I am asked most often is: “What is the difference between PB 1 and the new program The Gift?” Well I thought that the best way to describe it would be in a video.  The short version is that it is a pretty natural evolution of the program, it is more condensed, timely, aimed and integration and application and has fantastic depth and energy.

Check out the video and then the links below and you will get a great snapshot of the exciting new programs that are on the way!

[http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dK6iax6Fj8U]

A copy of the 12 pillars can be downloaded here.

A description for people who have been engaged in personal development in the past that I believe will speak to the core of your process.

If you have participated in Personal Best Level one already, register here to be one of the first to experience The Gift!

 

 

Are You Ready to Create?

I was given as assignment from my coach to really target the people that I want in our new Creation Circles.  I started writing and with the help of the amazing Jessica Belbin this is what I came up with.

If you have EVER had a transformative experience please read this and comment if it resonates with you and your experience. Thanks in advance.
You have had a transformative experience in your life. In other words that: ‘life changing event’, a moment of Self-Realization, an “Ah-Ha moment”, the light bulb came on, Holy shit, breath stealing, Experience of Truth… moment.

Through this moment and afterwards you re-realized your Self Worth and as a result stopped reaching for the bag of Doritos (chips, cookies, ice cream, smokes, and / or glass of… watching late-night T.V. (porn on your lap top, shopping to fill the void, filling your day with ‘to do’s’, consistently satisfying everyone else first, Googling your life away) AND INSTEAD decided you were worth speaking your heart, being who you really are and doing the things in life YOU actually, truly WANTED to do.

After this moment, for at least a while and maybe still:

You dedicated yourself to growing…

You kept your momentum….

You achieved successes beyond what you ever thought possible…

You committed to your ongoing journey…

Yahoo! – (insert back flips here) – That f***ing rocks, and you deserve acknowledgement for that!

But then perhaps, and often enough, comes ‘The Gap’.

What is ‘The Gap’?
You know very well what the gap is. You wish you didn’t, but you do.

It’s the place of no longer playing the small game you used to play. But you sure as hell are not playing the game that is possible, you are not even close to living the life you can be, do and have. You know this because you saw it, you lived it for a while, then it fell away. But you can’t see a way to achieve the life you KNOW that you can have. This uncomfortable, frustrating, depressing, trapped, heavy, painful place has led to feelings of ‘blaming them’ or ‘blaming yourself’ or for a few- ‘no blame, but damn this is slow’…

The true crime with these perceptions is that they mortally wound your capacity to create. Choosing these perspectives breeds resistance and casts you in the darkness and stagnation of victimization. They are choices that lead to you selling yourself on some version of settling into your ‘life of less’. The Truth Hurts…

Are you still hurting?
Frustrated?
Or have you gone numb?

This is where most people stay stuck, between Self-blame victim:
“What’s wrong with me?” or “I suck because everyone else seems to get what they want but I can’t.” and External blame victim: “That organization, course, facilitator, book, info product, etc. took advantage of me and sold me something that doesn’t work in the real world.” or “I’ve tried my best with it. It just doesn’t work.” But lets make no mistake about it, both positions are victim.

A lucky few actually get to a spot of personal accountability, they get to live their dreams, lose weight, start families, run a successful business…

But often, even there, it feels like its going at a snails pace. It takes some time for our reality to catch up with our glimpse of our transformed self.

So we know you. We see you. Our heart goes out to you. That glimpse you had can be real… You just need a different approach! Transformation is not a program, it is not a course, it is not your 6 month series with your personal coach, it’s not your audios on your ipod and it is not all of your shelf help books.

At the Creators Code we know it does not really matter what course(s) you have taken, what journey to Machu Picchu, Nepal, etc. you have done, what guru you have touched, etc. Because..

We know that these are all just different paths to the same destination, which is acknowledging that:

You are a creator. You are a divine reflection of God. A spark of spirit. A part of the Universe. You have the capacity to create and sustain that transformation for yourself, you family, your community and yes, ultimately the world.

You are here for a reason. There is something within you that you are called to create and it’s long past due.

Your tribe is calling, are you coming?

If you are in ‘The Gap’, you are there simply because the elements for guaranteeing success are not in your life and you probably did not know what they were.

Real transformation takes 3 things in addition to your transformative experience(s) – The elements are stunningly simple but incredibly elusive: The three R’s Relate, Reframe, repeat.

Reframe your way of thinking: In case you haven’t noticed this is impossible to do while you are stuck in your own gap. It’s like being trapped in a box and the instructions for how to get out are on the outside, someone has to come along and read them to you and help you get out.

Relate: When in the gap, we attract people that reinforce our current experience and those beliefs that we have had since we were 3 years old (and again in case you haven’t noticed, that is not helping). What is required to sustain change is surrounding yourself with people who get and believe in your vision in yourself and your life. People who have walked the path and done it before you and people who look to you for inspiration and whom you step up to support. That is the way.

Repeat, Repeat, Repeat!. Neuro-Science says it takes hearing something 7 times before the neural network can even hold the idea or the possibility. But that is probably 100,000 times less than what is necessary to translate that idea into a real, tangible, sustained experience or result in your life. How many times have the messages of ‘small you’ been repeated? One of the single largest benefits of your Creation Circle is they will repeat to you over and over ‘You can’, ‘You deserve this’, ‘Its time you came here to create this’, and perhaps most importantly going back to relate ‘We’ll help!

All of these elements are what you will find in your Creation Circle!

There is no end point. There is no ‘straight line’ that anyone stays on. The truth is… the more growth, ‘ah-has’ and ‘Holy shit’ moments on the journey – the better.

Live a life of continuous purpose, clarity and contribution.

But;

Perhaps your pride says it’s impossible. Your experience says it’s risky. Your intellect says it’s pointless. But your heart says give it a try. Participating in a Creation Circle amplifies the Whisper of your Heart.
Step into (again) the magic and flow of creation! You know that within you there is SOMETHING that YOU MUST CREATE. You know with cellular certainty there is something within you that given the right environment, the correct support, the appropriate space YOU WILL MANIFEST YOUR HEARTS DESIRES:

Why Now?

• Really? Have you looked around the world lately?
• Better yet…

• Pause…
• Wait…
• Breathe…

Listen to the Whisper of your Heart …

Brief Update on Life & 17 Reasons…

You KNOW You Want To!

Only 2 months left in 2011, and I must say that they are an incredibly exciting things coming down the pipe that I am thrilled to share with you. Some highlights are:

Cory and I are facilitating the Couples Weekends again! After 5 plus years of requests we can finally say YES!! We are doing a Mastery evening called “The Power Between” on Monday November 7th, free for Inner Circle members and their partners. $40 per couple for non members.

I am delivering the new format of Personal Best Level One called “The Gift” for a small group of past Level One grads December 9 – 11. Register here if you want one of the few seats left.

The first Creation Circle Leaders Training starts this weekend, YAHOOOOOO!!! this is huge and if you are interested in real world results, bending time and creating in 3 or 6 months what may have taken a year or more, check out this page and submit your application. I have been working on this for over 6 months, we have attracted an outstanding launch group of Creation Circle leaders…you will be blown away!

NOTE: If you are interested in becoming a Creation Circle Leader please do 3 things 1) Email me to get on the invite list 2) Set aside these dates March 29th  – April 4th 2012 3) If you have not already begin to consciously define, attract and connect with your UNIQUE tribe.  You take care of those three things and we will provide the model, the tools and the structure to contribute your unique gift AND earn fantastic $$!

In the midst of all this we are preparing for the complete relaunch of our new programs, brand and structure for January 2012.

Out of all of this what I am MOST excited about is the ability to offer an experience that is truly the first of its kind (I will wager that there will be many more like it in the next 3 to 5 years). The Creator’s Code is less of a program and more of a global movement. A movement of conscious creators who are committed to “Being The Change” that the world needs, Creating more than we consume and leading in a powerful visible manner among many other things.

If you are interested in powerful personal and professional development, deep level mastermind, and participating in conscious community, then claim your space as a creator and join a Creation Circle Today. NOTE: We are in the beta test mode and there are only a small handful of spots in select groups. You must apply to be sure you are a fit with the Creation Circle Leader and the other participants. The non refundable application is $97 and is in NO WAY a guarantee that you will be accepted as a member. Find out more by emailing Lance.

We have confirmed dates for Grande Prairie for 2012 this totally rocks!  In fact I will be in GP this week Nov 2nd at Skyloft Integrated Wellness Introductory Presentation 6:00 pm – 7:30 PM Mastery evening 7:30 – 10:30 PM. Email to register.

Speaking of 2012 we have all the Canadian program dates set so if you have not gotten those weekends booked check out the schedule and get it DONE!

Looking WAAAAY forward to October 2012 we are very proud (and Rae Ann is completely nutty excited) to bring best selling Hay House author Greg Braden to Edmonton, it is going to be an amazing event, check out his books and be sure to get one of the early bird super discounted VIP tickets so you can meet this amazing man yourself.

Well there is more, much more actually however that is coming soon, but I must get back to the finalizing the Creation Circle Leaders training for this weekend.  I will leave you with the early writing of the brilliant JBel who is massaging copy for the new Creation Circle website.

The site will be edgy, a bit tongue in cheek, and will pull no punches when it comes to supporting you to create what is most important to you!

Enjoy…as always open to thoughts and feedback.

17 Reasons you need to be part of a Creation Circle

1) Bend Time and create your dreams faster.

E=mc2, Einstein was right, you can bend time, seriously, look it up.

2) You are a leader.

Yes you are, c’mon now, you are.

3) Your own team of cheerleaders, SIS, BOOM, BAH!

With or without the high kicks and pom-poms, these people love to support you and cheer you on.

4) The Juice.

Being a creator, contributing to the world and celebrating profit captivate you. Making your dreams a reality and giving your unique gifts is really the sweet stuff of life!

5) Transformation is cool.

They have entire robot movies about it. But you want your transformation to be more than meets the eye, a consciously directed shift. Wow, imagine how that will feel.

6) Buying it or making it.

You have chosen to consume less and now you are ready to create. Shopaholic is no longer who you are or what you do.

7) Tap into the Mindbank.

What’s the Mindbank? It’s the space of all knowing and you can utilize it. Ok, sounds kind of out there, but it’s real and it’s neato.

8) Learn to fish.

By learning how to create what you want in life and maintain it, you won’t be stuck wondering how to do it or who will do it for you; you’ll already be reaping the rewards.

9) A Global tribe

You know that you belong to a community that extends beyond the borders of your country. You can still cheer for your country at the Olympics though.

10) You get busy and you get off track.

Meet your kick in the pants.

11) Mastery, Mission and Money, Oh My!

Imagine knowing your purpose in life, creating the life you want using that purpose and making money in that process all the while the whole time. We don’t make this stuff up. You do.

12) Rubbing elbows.

You’ll get access to the top minds in personal development and business building on planet Earth. You might as well get the goods from the best.

13) A ring.

You get some bling with your commitment. It has magic powers and makes you a super hero! Actually, you already have that magic and power inside you, but a ring might help you remember that. And, it’s snazzy!

14) Celebrate the process.

Each month you can meet other conscious creators and hear amazing speakers who are all about inspiring, teaching, learning and growing. It’ll be one hell of a party. Every month. ‘Cause life, it’s fun!

15) Commitment, participation, support.

Sounds like a great marriage. You bet your ass it is! Creation Circles are made up of people wholeheartedly committed to making change within themselves, the world and supporting others doing the same.

16) Give birth.

In Italian, give birth is Dare alla luce, which literally means to give to the light. Gives whole new meaning and power to creating your ideas and projects for the world now doesn’t it.

17) INSTANT MANIFESTATION.

Enough said.

 

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Some of you know that I have been a proponent of entrepreneurship and have long believed and taught that we can ALL be FINANCIALLY FREE! Well this book will teach you how. It is simply written and full of practical ideas and tools that you can apply NOW!

Today is the official release and if you buy the book today you will get $2000 of perks, some of them from me, that is how much I believe in this book, Doug and Melanie and their mission.

If you only read one book for the rest of this year read Catch Fire: How To Ignite Your Own Economy! Assuming you have already read mine ; )

http://www.catchfireuniversity.com/a/?wid=1831&page=/cpid/36

Create and enjoy your financial freedom!

Jay

LOVE, Needs & Expectations

And of Course VIce Versa!


I have just finished delivering “The Gift” in Orlando, a very cool group of people, many of whom were there to improve the quality of their relationships.

It has me thinking about how difficult most of our society makes relationships, and how our current divorce rate hovers somewhere between 50 – 60% depending upon who you read, and this does not even begin to comment on the happiness of those that remain together, you do not have to look far and wide to know that even many of the relationships that still together are not REALLY working. Relationships are one of the most fascinating and beautiful ways for us to discover ourselves, grow evolve and make our unique contribution to the world, yet most of them are anything but that.  Is it any wonder that some of the best selling info products on the web are “How to save your marriage” “You can avoid divorce”

I love The Beatles song “All You Need is Love”  after all it has a great beat and it is easy to dance to ; )  But it is symbolic of a core issue, myth, fantasy that our society seems hell bent on perpetuating.

Lets be clear, love is beautiful, love is amazing, hey I will even go so far as to say love makes the world go round.  That said let be even clearer on this point when it comes to primary relationships that actually work, that are sustainable, meaningful and fulfilling LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH!!

Just because I am afraid I was unclear and perhaps was beating around the bush I will say it again.  Love is not enough for a primary relationship to sustain the tests of time.  I know that this statement wrankels many people but that does not make the statement any less true.

There was a gentleman in The Gift that had a statement that I found interesting “God and nature did not design marriage or relationships for the fulfillment of each others needs, it was created for each of us to heal our childhood wounds”  I think this is a fascinating statement as I would view the healing of our childhood wounds as a fundamental need.  I think what he meant was that we are not there to dance to each others whims, have my supper ready, bring home a  big pay check, provide a place for me to belong, need me so I feel needed.   Yes I do get this part and I agree, but another part of me wonders if this is just one more way to push away, deny and pretend that we as individuals do not have needs, or sometimes even worse perpetuate the myth that we can simply fulfill all our own needs. 

In the Creator’s Code Couples Weekend “The Power Between” we  create the framework for the following:

1) Personal consciousness of our own individual beliefs our partners beliefs  how they play out together in our relationship

2) Then we get to what are our REAL needs the core drivers, not the mechanics, stories and drama (this is what I think my friend and participant was meaning about helping each other heal our childhood wounds) and from a clean clear loving space create structures, processes and agreements to support one another to get those needs met

3)  The standard that we are shooting for is simply this.  To have a standing agreement that if one of us asks DIRECTLY for what we want and it is possible (physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually) for the other to GIVE it they do.  If they are unable to give it then they explain what is going on for them AND they support the partner in getting that need met in an alternative way.  Clearly just because they could not fulfill the need it does not mean that it has gone away.

The beauty of creating, applying and integrating this into your relationship, is that one of the most wanted  killers of primary relationships quite literally magically disappears.  The name of that is expectations.  The reality is that unconscious and unexpressed expectation has already created damage in your relationship, on both sides but it does not need to be that way, it is possible to banish unmet expectation from your relationship once and for ALL!

If having this type of clarity of self and your partner is interesting, and you would like to transform how you fulfill each others core needs, be sure that you check out “The Power Between”  

” When you struggle with your partner, you are struggling with yourself. Every fault you see in them touches a denied weakness in yourself. ”

Deepak Chopra