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Brief Update on Life & 17 Reasons…

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 November 2, 2011
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You KNOW You Want To!

Only 2 months left in 2011, and I must say that they are an incredibly exciting things coming down the pipe that I am thrilled to share with you. Some highlights are:

Cory and I are facilitating the Couples Weekends again! After 5 plus years of requests we can finally say YES!! We are doing a Mastery evening called “The Power Between” on Monday November 7th, free for Inner Circle members and their partners. $40 per couple for non members.

I am delivering the new format of Personal Best Level One called “The Gift” for a small group of past Level One grads December 9 – 11. Register here if you want one of the few seats left.

The first Creation Circle Leaders Training starts this weekend, YAHOOOOOO!!! this is huge and if you are interested in real world results, bending time and creating in 3 or 6 months what may have taken a year or more, check out this page and submit your application. I have been working on this for over 6 months, we have attracted an outstanding launch group of Creation Circle leaders…you will be blown away!

NOTE: If you are interested in becoming a Creation Circle Leader please do 3 things 1) Email me to get on the invite list 2) Set aside these dates March 29th  – April 4th 2012 3) If you have not already begin to consciously define, attract and connect with your UNIQUE tribe.  You take care of those three things and we will provide the model, the tools and the structure to contribute your unique gift AND earn fantastic $$!

In the midst of all this we are preparing for the complete relaunch of our new programs, brand and structure for January 2012.

Out of all of this what I am MOST excited about is the ability to offer an experience that is truly the first of its kind (I will wager that there will be many more like it in the next 3 to 5 years). The Creator’s Code is less of a program and more of a global movement. A movement of conscious creators who are committed to “Being The Change” that the world needs, Creating more than we consume and leading in a powerful visible manner among many other things.

If you are interested in powerful personal and professional development, deep level mastermind, and participating in conscious community, then claim your space as a creator and join a Creation Circle Today. NOTE: We are in the beta test mode and there are only a small handful of spots in select groups. You must apply to be sure you are a fit with the Creation Circle Leader and the other participants. The non refundable application is $97 and is in NO WAY a guarantee that you will be accepted as a member. Find out more by emailing Lance.

We have confirmed dates for Grande Prairie for 2012 this totally rocks!  In fact I will be in GP this week Nov 2nd at Skyloft Integrated Wellness Introductory Presentation 6:00 pm – 7:30 PM Mastery evening 7:30 – 10:30 PM. Email to register.

Speaking of 2012 we have all the Canadian program dates set so if you have not gotten those weekends booked check out the schedule and get it DONE!

Looking WAAAAY forward to October 2012 we are very proud (and Rae Ann is completely nutty excited) to bring best selling Hay House author Greg Braden to Edmonton, it is going to be an amazing event, check out his books and be sure to get one of the early bird super discounted VIP tickets so you can meet this amazing man yourself.

Well there is more, much more actually however that is coming soon, but I must get back to the finalizing the Creation Circle Leaders training for this weekend.  I will leave you with the early writing of the brilliant JBel who is massaging copy for the new Creation Circle website.

The site will be edgy, a bit tongue in cheek, and will pull no punches when it comes to supporting you to create what is most important to you!

Enjoy…as always open to thoughts and feedback.

17 Reasons you need to be part of a Creation Circle

1) Bend Time and create your dreams faster.

E=mc2, Einstein was right, you can bend time, seriously, look it up.

2) You are a leader.

Yes you are, c’mon now, you are.

3) Your own team of cheerleaders, SIS, BOOM, BAH!

With or without the high kicks and pom-poms, these people love to support you and cheer you on.

4) The Juice.

Being a creator, contributing to the world and celebrating profit captivate you. Making your dreams a reality and giving your unique gifts is really the sweet stuff of life!

5) Transformation is cool.

They have entire robot movies about it. But you want your transformation to be more than meets the eye, a consciously directed shift. Wow, imagine how that will feel.

6) Buying it or making it.

You have chosen to consume less and now you are ready to create. Shopaholic is no longer who you are or what you do.

7) Tap into the Mindbank.

What’s the Mindbank? It’s the space of all knowing and you can utilize it. Ok, sounds kind of out there, but it’s real and it’s neato.

8) Learn to fish.

By learning how to create what you want in life and maintain it, you won’t be stuck wondering how to do it or who will do it for you; you’ll already be reaping the rewards.

9) A Global tribe

You know that you belong to a community that extends beyond the borders of your country. You can still cheer for your country at the Olympics though.

10) You get busy and you get off track.

Meet your kick in the pants.

11) Mastery, Mission and Money, Oh My!

Imagine knowing your purpose in life, creating the life you want using that purpose and making money in that process all the while the whole time. We don’t make this stuff up. You do.

12) Rubbing elbows.

You’ll get access to the top minds in personal development and business building on planet Earth. You might as well get the goods from the best.

13) A ring.

You get some bling with your commitment. It has magic powers and makes you a super hero! Actually, you already have that magic and power inside you, but a ring might help you remember that. And, it’s snazzy!

14) Celebrate the process.

Each month you can meet other conscious creators and hear amazing speakers who are all about inspiring, teaching, learning and growing. It’ll be one hell of a party. Every month. ‘Cause life, it’s fun!

15) Commitment, participation, support.

Sounds like a great marriage. You bet your ass it is! Creation Circles are made up of people wholeheartedly committed to making change within themselves, the world and supporting others doing the same.

16) Give birth.

In Italian, give birth is Dare alla luce, which literally means to give to the light. Gives whole new meaning and power to creating your ideas and projects for the world now doesn’t it.

17) INSTANT MANIFESTATION.

Enough said.

 

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LOVE, Needs & Expectations

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 October 27, 2011
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And of Course VIce Versa!


I have just finished delivering “The Gift” in Orlando, a very cool group of people, many of whom were there to improve the quality of their relationships.

It has me thinking about how difficult most of our society makes relationships, and how our current divorce rate hovers somewhere between 50 – 60% depending upon who you read, and this does not even begin to comment on the happiness of those that remain together, you do not have to look far and wide to know that even many of the relationships that still together are not REALLY working. Relationships are one of the most fascinating and beautiful ways for us to discover ourselves, grow evolve and make our unique contribution to the world, yet most of them are anything but that.  Is it any wonder that some of the best selling info products on the web are “How to save your marriage” “You can avoid divorce”

I love The Beatles song “All You Need is Love”  after all it has a great beat and it is easy to dance to ; )  But it is symbolic of a core issue, myth, fantasy that our society seems hell bent on perpetuating.

Lets be clear, love is beautiful, love is amazing, hey I will even go so far as to say love makes the world go round.  That said let be even clearer on this point when it comes to primary relationships that actually work, that are sustainable, meaningful and fulfilling LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH!!

Just because I am afraid I was unclear and perhaps was beating around the bush I will say it again.  Love is not enough for a primary relationship to sustain the tests of time.  I know that this statement wrankels many people but that does not make the statement any less true.

There was a gentleman in The Gift that had a statement that I found interesting “God and nature did not design marriage or relationships for the fulfillment of each others needs, it was created for each of us to heal our childhood wounds”  I think this is a fascinating statement as I would view the healing of our childhood wounds as a fundamental need.  I think what he meant was that we are not there to dance to each others whims, have my supper ready, bring home a  big pay check, provide a place for me to belong, need me so I feel needed.   Yes I do get this part and I agree, but another part of me wonders if this is just one more way to push away, deny and pretend that we as individuals do not have needs, or sometimes even worse perpetuate the myth that we can simply fulfill all our own needs. 

In the Creator’s Code Couples Weekend “The Power Between” we  create the framework for the following:

1) Personal consciousness of our own individual beliefs our partners beliefs  how they play out together in our relationship

2) Then we get to what are our REAL needs the core drivers, not the mechanics, stories and drama (this is what I think my friend and participant was meaning about helping each other heal our childhood wounds) and from a clean clear loving space create structures, processes and agreements to support one another to get those needs met

3)  The standard that we are shooting for is simply this.  To have a standing agreement that if one of us asks DIRECTLY for what we want and it is possible (physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually) for the other to GIVE it they do.  If they are unable to give it then they explain what is going on for them AND they support the partner in getting that need met in an alternative way.  Clearly just because they could not fulfill the need it does not mean that it has gone away.

The beauty of creating, applying and integrating this into your relationship, is that one of the most wanted  killers of primary relationships quite literally magically disappears.  The name of that is expectations.  The reality is that unconscious and unexpressed expectation has already created damage in your relationship, on both sides but it does not need to be that way, it is possible to banish unmet expectation from your relationship once and for ALL!

If having this type of clarity of self and your partner is interesting, and you would like to transform how you fulfill each others core needs, be sure that you check out “The Power Between”  

” When you struggle with your partner, you are struggling with yourself. Every fault you see in them touches a denied weakness in yourself. ”

Deepak Chopra

Categories : Coaching, Life and Random Thoughts, Parenting with Purpose, The Creators Code
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Asking Directly For What You Want

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 October 13, 2011
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I never cease to be amazed at the power and simplicity of asking DIRECTLY for what I want.  It is a quantum accelerator, a powerful communication and relationship building tool, and it is a skill that we can all improve upon.

Here is a brief excerpt from my book “Reframe Your Blame, How to be Personally Accountable”

Excerpt starts:

Think of all the things that you have done in your life to gain recognition. Another word for recognition is love (or a reasonable facsimile thereof). You’ve made sacrifices for loved ones, sometimes just going along and pretending you agree, all to make sure you are not judged or rejected. Human beings do wild and wacky things to be recognized, to fit in, to be loved and accepted. The truth is, it rarely works in the way that we would like it to.
Recognition Payoff Remedy: It’s so simple and yet nearly impossible for many people. Simply ask directly for what you want.
“I beg your pardon,” you say. “If it were that easy, I would already be doing that. I remember times in my life when I asked directly and I did not get what I asked for.” I understand that, and of course you’re right—at least from your perspective. That’s why you created the devious routines you have to get the love and recogni- tion that you need.
Let’s elaborate on the deep and complex idea of asking directly for what you want. Sometimes, we’re afraid that if we describe what we truly want and ask for it, we are giving power to those who want to hurt or thwart us. However, consider the logic of not asking, but hoping that someone in your life will catch the hints, intuit your deepest desires (which they should, of course, if they truly care about you), and then behave as you desire. This is nothing more than preplanning and preparing to be victimized by the people from whom you want love and recognition.

Here are some guidelines for successfully asking.

•  Ask directly and honestly for what you want.

• Ask someone who has the capacity to give youwhat you are asking for. Asking a starving man to give you food is unproductive. Asking someone incapable of a committed relationship to provide eternal fidelity and devotion is a recipe for disaster.
• Ask, knowing that it is the other person’s choice to give to you or not. They have every right to say “no.” That doesn’t in any way dismiss or diminish your desire or need. Develop a support network broad enough that you have more than three people to ask.
But suppose you have co-created your relationships in such a way that asking for what you want directly would be nothing more than a setup for the other person to exert power over you by saying “no.” Then start by renegotiating the ground rules of your relationships before asking. Some relationships descend into a spite war, an arena where each resents the other for not supplying what is needed, so they punish each other by withholding what the other wants. If this has happened, negotiate a truce and a new agreement about how you will interact with one another. Your objective: If either of us asks directly for what we want, and the other is physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually able to provide it, they will. If they can’t, they will explain why and offer support for fulfilling this need in another way.

To summarize: If one of your payoffs is recognition (and it is if you are human), ask directly for what you want, ask someone who has the capacity to give it to you, and remember to ask with no strings attached.

They have every right to say “no,” and you have every right to have your needs fulfilled.

Excerpt ends.

So what must you ask for today and whom must you ask? It is often significantly more difficult than it first appears.  If you would like support this is a process that we create agreement to and structure for in primary relationships in our Couples Weekends and Retreats, if you would like more information please check them out.

Jay

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