This is a excerpt from my book “Reframe Your Blame, How to Be Personally Accountable” It focuses on the key elements of becoming a generator (or what I will call a creator in future editions.
Consciousness Clue
We choose all our beliefs, consciously and less than consciously, to help us make sense of and cope with the world. Some of those beliefs may no longer support us. If all our beliefs are chosen in the first place, why not choose beliefs that support us in feeling happy, joyful, and purposeful?
Becoming a Generator
Once you begin to wrap your head and heart around dealing with the mechanics of life at the practical level of accountability and you explore the broader arching lessons of spiritual evolution, often a pattern begins to emerge. You discover that the lessons you are learning are related, not random. Cumulatively, they will answer your question, “What is my mission?†More on this in the final segment of the book.
Indicators That You Are a Generator
Of all the benefits of accountability, one of the easiest to observe is what life is like when you stop draining yourself and others and become a generator. Most people instinctually get what this means, but let’s answer the question, “A generator of what?â€
The short answer is, “a generator of whatever you focus on—energy, love, acceptance, money, support, wisdom, knowledge, connection—the list is almost endless.â€
When you’re a generator, you experience synergy. Amazingly, the effects of the whole become greater than the sum of the parts. One plus one no longer equals two. Now, it equals eleven.
Here are some clues to recognize when you are being a generator:
- People seek you out and want to be with you.
- You can be alone and feel optimistic, powerful, and loved.
- You have the capacity to give without feeling less or drained.
- You have clear boundaries and create relationships where they are respected.
- You have personal integrity. You keep your word with self and others.
- Your self talk is encouraging, generally positive, and propels you forward
Indicators of Personal Accountability
How can you tell if you are actually being accountable? Be warned. Initially, there are times when we flip back and forth between victimization and accountability several times within the same thought. This is common. Even when you dedicate yourself to Personal Accountability, you still have all those old Victim stories, triggers, and patterns in your memory. Be patient. It takes time, practice and purpose.
To support you along the way, there are some milestones that you can look for to see if you are on track.
Early Indicators
- Using I-me-my centered language
- Being grounded in reality, honest with self and others
- Applying the remedies for your payoffs and protections
- Engaging in life solutions
- Framing conversations around applying lessons and learning
- Consciously choosing beliefs
- Choosing resourceful and empowering emotional states
- Minimizing meeting needs through payoffs and protections
- Enjoying a high level of resiliency
- Experiencing relationships that work
- Changing results by applying lessons
Long Term Indicators
- Consciously choosing beliefs
- Choosing resourceful and empowering emotional states
- Minimizing meeting needs through payoffs and protections
- Enjoying a high level of resiliency
- Experiencing relationships that work
- Changing results by applying lessons
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Jay
