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What Happens in The Gift?

You KNOW You Want To!

You KNOW You Want To!

Lately I have been really thinking deeply about how to better communicate the value of The Gift.  It is one of the most personal and intimate experiences in the universe, the exploration of us as individual physical, mental, emotional and spiritual awareness and evolution.

So to help communicate the breadth and depth of the process i decided to use the notes of thanks and gratitude to begin to explore what people create by participating in The Gift.
There are a multitude of specific results that graduates have created from saving marriages, to selling everything buying a sailboat and traveling the world, to making millions, to coming “out” to family and friends, launching businesses, starting bands…you name it.  the specific stories are powerful and inspiring.

There is a golden thread that runs through all of the stories and the work that The Creator’s Code does.  This golden thread is speaks to the very core of what it means to be a human being.
This thread is made up of a multitude of finer strands each woven together leads to 3 key ways of BEING.

The first is an ongoing process of discovery and (re)claiming of self
The second is the courage to risk, that which once stops people not longer does
The third is greater presence and engagement in life instead of going 60 or 80% of capacity grads dedicate themselves to Consciously CREATE!!
In short:

Claim
Courage
Create

Here is an example.

A few years ago, a man came into The Gift with a significant to sever stutter.
Imagine this as a difficulty in your life, there more stressed you get, the more important it is to communicate…the more difficult it becomes.  At times to the point of not possible.

To aggravate the situation further imagine the frustration of KNOWING that there are times that you do not stutter at all. times when you can speak fluently and eloquently with ease….just not now.

For context it is important to note that one of the GREATEST fears that human beings have is public speaking, consider how that would be magnified if you had a sever stutter.

In The Gift Don threw himself into the process, participated in everything with energy and dedication, in so doing he discovered and claimed parts of himself that had laid dormant for years, the power of play, his sense of humor and how much he deeply cared for people.

Through this process, magic happened his willingness to risk grew exponentially he developed COURAGE, his attachment and concern to others judgments, his fear of failure diminished to the degree that he spoke in front of the large group multiple times  and at times had great difficulty communicating what he wanted to say…yet he stood clear grounded and powerful in his intention to communicate who he is and what is most important to him.  He was a powerful role model and leader in his course.

This is note that Don sent me recently, it brought a smile to my face. I remembered vividly him standing up in front of 50 people struggling to make himself heard.

 

“Hi Jay, it has been awhile since I chatted with you. This morning when I was speaking in Toastmasters Club, I was thinking that my life has changed since the Personal Best program. The journey since then has been incredible. I have just qualified for the Triple Crown award for this year. I have competed in 2 speech contests, and have won all the way to the division level. I am preparing for the speech contest again in March. I have been so blessed to have you and another mentor/coach.”

Now I can see him clearly in front of a room presenting at toastmasters.  Clearly claiming his power, being courageous and creating the life he desires and deserves.

Don I am proud of you and happy for you!

Thanks for sending me the note.

With love and deep respect for you and your journey.
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PS: To find out how The Gift can support you to create what is most important, email now and book your complimentary one on one discovery session.

My MOST Important Month This Year!

frog_waterPillar 2 “I Create MORE Than I Consume” is on.  I for one am super excited about it and while working on myself and my business from the perspective of Pillar 1 “Personal Accountability”  I have gained some insights that have me HIGHLY MOTIVATED!  I am dedicating myself to a conscious creation RESET.  Want to join me?

I have spent the last 2 years developing content, systems and process for our new brand The Creator’s Code.  My output has been stellar in terms of content creation.  BUT I have been out of balance, I have consumed FAR too much time, money, resources in the “Creation” mode and in taking 3 steps back to evaluate, in fact this creation process has actually become more of a CONSUMPTION process.  UGGGG, that feels like a kick to the… to the… lets say solar plexus.

What is fascinating to me is the subtle at least to me way that some of my greatest acts of creation of turned into unconscious act of consumption.

So my question to myself is “How the hell did that happen?”

It feels a bit like the story of the frog and the boiling water. If you toss a frog into boiling water it jumps out and saves it life…makes sense BUT if you put a from into nice and comfortable lukewarm water and slowly but surely turn temperature. One or two degrees at a time the frog remains comfortable…after all it is just a small and subtle change and remains in water until it is boiled to death.

So the truth is I have been sitting comfortable in creation mode, which I love and have let myself slip, a couple of degrees at a time into consumption mode.  In hindsight I see some of the key decisions and framing that lead to this result…but at the time I was oblivious.

It makes me wonder, how many of you currently have a life area, business, relationship, creative project that started as creation but has slipped into consumption? If you are wondering if this is true ask yourself these questions, I know that they would have helped me to recognize when the “HEAT” was being turned up.

  1. Are you in resistance to…
    1. Working on the project
    2. Completion
    3. Engaging and accepting specific types of support
    4. My normal routines
    5. Doing that which will have the GREATEST positive impact
  2. Do you have specific results that are normally clockwork that are suffering?
    1. Self care routines
    2. Financial results
    3. Time with family
  3. Are you managing low levels of negative emotions?
    1. Frustration
    2. Sadness
    3. Confusion
    4. Disappointment
  4. Are you managing incompletes?
    1. Taxes
    2. Correspondence
    3. House cleaning/maintenance
  5. Relationship strain
    1. Not seeing the people you care about most
    2. Not being PRESENT with people you love when you a re with them
    3. Changes in sexual intimacy
    4. Drama with family
    5. Undefined distance

If you said responded yes to 3 or more of the questions above you may have shifted into consumption mode and need a RESET.  When it comes to creating a reset the faster the better and we have collected some fantastic people, tools and experiences to get you back on track THIS MONTH.

One of the most powerful experiences that we offer at The Creator’s Code is “The Accountability Intensive” weekend which is the experiential version of my bestselling book “Reframe Your Blame” it is happening this weekend in Edmonton. Email lance@creatorscode.com to secure your seat.

Conscious Creation, here we come.

PS: I was going to share this with you later but seats are going so fast that I think it will be full in a day or 2.  I am bringing “Loral Langemeier The Millionaire Maker” to Calgary on February 13th.  We just went our first email about it and we are at 115 people and the venue only holds 150 so grab your free seat FAST!

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I know, I know, last minute preparations, gifts, family calls, play dates for kids, cleaning up things that MUST be done in 2013.  It can be difficult to raise our heads and create REAL VISION for our lives in the upcoming year.

So I have a gift for you, one of the most important in the universe:

  • Time for YOU
  • Time to evaluate the year that has just been
  • Time to CONSCIOUSLY set intention and create vision for your next year
  • Time to interpret and apply the key lessons of your life
  • Time to make sure that those recurring patterns that you are done with DO NOT SHOW UP IN 2014!

This gift is a process that I have been doing each and every year for over 20 years and I know that is has been fundamental in increasing my willingness to risk, my willingness to  learn from my mistakes and REALLY leverage my wins.

The Annual Assessment..I know killer title, (my friend Kerrianne would totally make fun of me)  but don’t let the name fool you it is a powerful process that I view as one of the most important rituals of my life.

The key to me about this process is simple.

Most people relive and recreate the same fundamental experiences over and over and over again! The reason generally speaking is simply this we as human beings are not that good at actually learning from our past, and our unconscious embedded resistance patterns attract and recreate the same types of people, circumstances, situations and choices that we have been making for most of our lives.

The fundamental law of resistance is this: Resistance breeds resistance, What you resist persists, what you resist over time you become! Simply put until we deal with our resistance and the unconscious beliefs that trigger resistance we are trapped to repeat the same patterns over and over again.

My gift and invitation to  you here is a simple yet powerful process to actually learn from your experience of the past year and consciously APPLY those lessons to your life this year!

Truly learning from the past is one of the most powerful ways to break the patterns of resistance in our lives. So lets get to it!

This year I am doing a free seminar on google hangouts that will share the process. The event is on boxing day evening  and it steps you through each step and stage of my annual ritual.

Register here.

This process is powerful and it works. Take the time to make sure that 2014 is all that you want it to be. You deserve it!

PS: The Consciously Creating Christmas Contest is on now, $25,000 in prizes and it is super easy and fun to play!  Check it out here.  http://thecreatorscode.kajabi.com/fe/35496-how-to-play

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Do The Work, It Is Worth It!

Some great thoughts about my best selling book “Reframe Your Blame, How To Be Personally Accountable”

Check it out!

If you are interested in the Insight into Leadership program you can check it out here.

Focus on the Easy Money

This article really spoke to me…as many of you know I have had tendency to do things the HARD WAY, I know there are “so few“of us who have that approach, that I thought I would share this with you.  Jeanna is a brilliant coach with a strong personal transformation grounding who I really admire.  Check her out.  Jay

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Guest Blog Post by Jeanna Gabellini

I used to have a bad habit of creating new ways to generate money every month. None of my new offerings had earth-shattering results, but that didn’t stop me from trying to reinvent the wheel. Apparently, I didn’t notice the pattern of working hard for little ROI.

I know many highly creative entrepreneurs who have similar issues. But then there’s the bunch that never tries anything new and they’re overworked and underpaid, too.
In my case, it’s my high-level mastermind programs and private coaching clients.Sometimes it takes a simple question to wake you up and be smart about how you increase your profits. The question that always works for me is, “Where does most of my money come from?” (Make sure you actually look at your bookkeeping reports before you answer.)

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at about you?

Another great question to ask yourself is, “What’s the easiest way I make money?”

Now the obvious way to use this information is to focus your energy on the things that you make the most money in the easiest way. But what if you don’t enjoy the thing that makes you the most money? Or what if it’s not easy to make sales? Or what if it’s not time leveraged?

Ask yourself why it makes you the most money and you’ll have your next step.

My mastermind is great because it’s a one-time sale and but I receive payments from each participant for ten months. I don’t have to sell it over and over again. It also happens to be heavy on coaching which means less intense content creation for me. And coaching is the favorite part of my business.

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In my case, I could focus on doing bigger masterminds or offer an additional one each year to generate easy money. Once a year I implement several marketing strategies to get the word out about my masterminds. Some of them are time intensive. And to complicate things, the way I filled my mastermind two years ago is different than what I did last year.

However, when I examine what really made those clients say HELL YES to me, all but one had previous experience with me or we’d had a personal phone conversation. Now I have my strategy theme: offer ways for people to get a personal experience with me.

That brings us to your final questions:

•    What’s the easiest marketing strategy for people to fall in love with what I offer?

•    How have they fallen for my offerings in the past?

•    What feels fun, easy and congruent with my brand and values?

You should have a general roadmap to generate more easy money in your business once you answer these questions. The next step after that is to dive deeper into brainstorming how your marketing can be converted into more sales, using less time.

Don’t forget, this is supposed to be easy and fun. If you’re not inspired then you need to change your strategy.

Jeanna Gabellini is a Master Business Coach who assists high achieving (and inner peace seeking) entrepreneurs to leverage fun, systems and intentionality for high-octane results. Get access to her complimentary webinar Unlock Your Profit Code on June 17 here.